Philip and Amber

Philip and Amber
Philip and Amber

Talking about healthy Black marriages. Friends who got married (7yrs ago) & had kids. Committed 4 life! 🖤 👑 Subscribe to our YouTube channel 👇🏾

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Philip and Amber

This is our type of date night. 🙃 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Follow 👉🏾 @blaqlove4life ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #datenightoutfit #datenights #husbandandwife #millennialmarriage #millennialwifehood #melaninlove #datenightideas #wetired #blacklovepage #millennialmarriagetips #datenightathome #blacklovematters #blackloveexists #blackmarriagemovement #blackcouples #blackcouplesrock #manandwife #blackwifelife #marriageministry #marriageblogger #marriedlife #blacklovecouples #millennialmarried #blackcouplerevolution #marriedandblack #happilymarried #blackloveisdope #blacklovecouples #marriageisfun

Pre pandemic Philip and I talked all day everyday. We talked on the phone in our free time, we texted, DM’d on IG and even sent emails to each other 😂. At one point we worked for the same company so we Instant Messaged as well. 🙃
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Now we’re home with one another all day and we still talk all day. I guess we really like each other. 🤷🏽‍♀️ We’ve always been friends so that friendship has carried over into our marriage.
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How often are you and your boo talking throughout the day?
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#communicationskills #communicationinmarriage #husbandandwife #millennialmarriage #millennialwifehood #melaninlove #marriageadvice #blacklovedoc #blacklovepage #millennialmarriagetips #marriagegoals #blacklovematters #blackloveexists #blackmarriagemovement #blackcouples #blackcouplesrock #manandwife #blackwifelife #marriageministry #marriageblogger #marriedlife #blacklovecouples #blackcouplerevolution #marriedandblack #happilymarried #blackloveisdope #blacklovecouples #wifeblogger

Philip and Amber

Pre pandemic Philip and I talked all day everyday. We talked on the phone in our free time, we texted, DM’d on IG and even sent emails to each other 😂. At one point we worked for the same company so we Instant Messaged as well. 🙃 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Now we’re home with one another all day and we still talk all day. I guess we really like each other. 🤷🏽‍♀️ We’ve always been friends so that friendship has carried over into our marriage. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How often are you and your boo talking throughout the day? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #communicationskills #communicationinmarriage #husbandandwife #millennialmarriage #millennialwifehood #melaninlove #marriageadvice #blacklovedoc #blacklovepage #millennialmarriagetips #marriagegoals #blacklovematters #blackloveexists #blackmarriagemovement #blackcouples #blackcouplesrock #manandwife #blackwifelife #marriageministry #marriageblogger #marriedlife #blacklovecouples #blackcouplerevolution #marriedandblack #happilymarried #blackloveisdope #blacklovecouples #wifeblogger

Philip and Amber

Sometimes you have to be a little spontaneous. Look at how he scurried. 😂 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What unlikely places have you and your boo gotten it in? 👀 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #keepthefireburning #sillycouples #husbandandwife #millennialmarriage #millennialwifehood #melaninlove #blackqueen #blackking #blacklovepage #millennialmarriagetips #luvblacklove #blacklovematters #blackloveexists #blackmarriagemovement #blackcouples #blackcouplesrock #manandwife #blackwifelife #marriageministry #marriageblogger #marriedlife #blacklovecouples #millennialmarried #blackcouplerevolution #marriedandblack #happilymarried #blackloveisdope #blacklovecouples #marriageisfun

Marriage is hard work but it’s worth it with the right one. We’ve grown up together...raising babies together and building a future together.
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We’re working on year 8 and we’re still my favorite love song. Happy National Spouse Day!
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Philip and Amber

Marriage is hard work but it’s worth it with the right one. We’ve grown up together...raising babies together and building a future together. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We’re working on year 8 and we’re still my favorite love song. Happy National Spouse Day! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #nationalspouseday #fallingblackinlove #unapologeticallyblack #melaninlove #blackqueen #blackking #blacklovepage #millennialmarriage #millennialwifehood #theblackmancan #blacklovepage #blacklovematters #blackloveexists #blackmarriagemovement #blackcouples #blackcouplesrock #manandwife #blackwifelife #marriageministry #marriageblogger #marriedlife #blacklovecouples #millennialmarried #blackcouplerevolution #marriedandblack #happilymarried #blackloveisdope #myhusbandismybestfriend #blacklovecouples #blackloveisblackpower

Philip and Amber

One year ago today the world mourned together. Kobe, you changed world and will never be forgotten. Continue to rest on Kobe and Gianna Bryant. ♾ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We’re sending love to the Bryant Family and the other families who lost loved ones. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #restinpeacekobe #mambaforever #mambamentality #mambamentality🐍 #foreverinourhearts

Join us in our 14 Days of Love Challenge! Starting February 1st. We are encouraging couples to join us in having sex with your partner every day for 14 days. This challenge is to see how intimacy affects your relationship. The hope is that it affects your relationships in a positive way and helps couples better communicate with one another.
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Tag your boo and let us know if you’ll join us!
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Philip and Amber

Join us in our 14 Days of Love Challenge! Starting February 1st. We are encouraging couples to join us in having sex with your partner every day for 14 days. This challenge is to see how intimacy affects your relationship. The hope is that it affects your relationships in a positive way and helps couples better communicate with one another. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Tag your boo and let us know if you’ll join us! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #14daysoflove #14daysoflovechallenge #blacklovepage #blackcouples #blackcouplesrock #blackloveexists #blacklovematters #millenialmarriage #intimacyinmarriage #marriageministry #marriageblogger #manandwife #husbandandwifeforlife #blackwifelife #marriedlife #millenialwifehood #monthoflove #blacklovedoc #blacklovedoesexist #blackcouplesgoals #marriagegoals #marriageadvice #blackmarriage #blackmarriagemovement #blackmarriages #blackmarriagesmatter #marriagematters #blacklovecouples #monthoflove #luvblacklove

Philip and Amber

We are doing a 14 Days of Love Challenge! Starting February 1st. We are encouraging couples to join us in having sex with your partner every day for 14 days. This challenge is to see how intimacy affects your relationship. The hope is that it affects your relationships in a positive way and helps couples better communicate with one another. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #14daysoflove #14daysoflovechallenge #blacklovepage #blackcouples #blackcouplesrock #blackloveexists #blacklovematters #millenialmarriage #intimacyinmarriage #marriageministry #marriageblogger #manandwife #husbandandwifeforlife #blackwifelife #marriedlife #millenialwifehood #monthoflove #blacklovedoc #blacklovedoesexist #blackcouplesgoals #marriagegoals #marriageadvice #blackmarriage #blackmarriagemovement #blackmarriages #blackmarriagesmatter #marriagematters

Philip and Amber

While my wife is away picking up groceries, me and the kids decided to do a quick Saturday morning workout. @theblackmancan 💪🏾 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Exercise inspired by @sterlingkbrown ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackfathers #healthme #fatherandson #fatherdaughterlove #millenialmarriage #blacklovepage #workingoutwithkids #blackcouplesrock #parentslove #getfit #saturdaymornings #blackmancan #sterlingkbrown #ludacris #blackfamily #workoutideas #blacklovecouples #blackfatherhood #blackfathersdoexist #exerciseroutine #exercising #workoutoftheday #blackmenfitness #theblackmancan #blackfathersmatter #blackloverocks #blackmenkillingit #blackloveexists #blackfamiliesmatter #blackdadsmatter

Philip and Amber

When your husband thinks you’re just chillin when he takes the kids. Chillin where?! 😳⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackparents #blackmommyblogger #blackmomsbelike #blackmomskillinit #wifeblogger #blacklove #blackmomsbelike #millenialmarriage #balancinglife #supermoms #marriedandblack #blackcouplerevolution #momgoals #blackmarriages #blackcouples #marriedlife #blacklovedoc #marriageadvice #marriageministry #blackmoms #blackcouplesrock #blackcouplesgoals #blackmomswhoblog #happilymarried #blacklovemagic #funnycouples #shareblackstories #blackmomsdaily

Sometimes we want so bad to be on the exact same page with our spouse, especially when it comes to parenting our kids. The truth is, that’s not always realistic or most beneficial.
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Kids are multifaceted, just like we are. They have a lot of needs and those needs change all the time. Having parents who differ in personalities and parenting styles allows us to reach more areas of our children’s life. 
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Philip has such a laid back personality but he’s the disciplinary when it comes to the kids. Because he’s so laid back they are able to vine with him a lot. On the flip side, when he has to be firm they know he means business because he is normally so chill.
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I’m so anal about things being done a certain way but I’m also super emotional and nurturing. In turn, the kids are more emotionally expressive with me and more likely to bring something hard to me.
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They need both of us, and our styles of parenting to get the most from us. So us having such different styles gives us a major advantage over us being the exact way way as parents. Our main goal is to make sure we are on the same page with what we want for our children and what we want to instill in them. The method doesn’t have to be the same, as long as the end goal and love is.
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How much are your parenting styles differing?
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Philip and Amber

Sometimes we want so bad to be on the exact same page with our spouse, especially when it comes to parenting our kids. The truth is, that’s not always realistic or most beneficial. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Kids are multifaceted, just like we are. They have a lot of needs and those needs change all the time. Having parents who differ in personalities and parenting styles allows us to reach more areas of our children’s life. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Philip has such a laid back personality but he’s the disciplinary when it comes to the kids. Because he’s so laid back they are able to vine with him a lot. On the flip side, when he has to be firm they know he means business because he is normally so chill. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’m so anal about things being done a certain way but I’m also super emotional and nurturing. In turn, the kids are more emotionally expressive with me and more likely to bring something hard to me. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ They need both of us, and our styles of parenting to get the most from us. So us having such different styles gives us a major advantage over us being the exact way way as parents. Our main goal is to make sure we are on the same page with what we want for our children and what we want to instill in them. The method doesn’t have to be the same, as long as the end goal and love is. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How much are your parenting styles differing? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackfamilies #parentinghacks #parentingtip #parentingtalk #parentingmoments #parentingtruths #parentingstyles #blackparents #blackparentsbelike #millenialmarriage #blackcouplesrock #parentinginapandemic #parentingishard #parentingadvice #parenting101 #parentinghelp #blackparentsmatter #blackmommyblogger #blackfathersmatter #blackmothersmatter #blackfathersrock #blackfathersdoexist #blackdadsmatter #blackdads #blackfamiliesmatter #parentingstyle #blackwifelife

Little Rock, Arkansas
Sometimes you just have to get each other together. We stay getting one another together. If we can’t be real with one another who can we be real with?!
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One area that we have really been getting one another together in, and on the same page, is our parenting. We differ so much in our parenting styles. 
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I’m more anal about things but the “pushover” at the same time. Philip is more laid back but the disciplinary. It’s funny how that works but that’s our dynamics.
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What we’ve learned and continue to learn is that our kids need both styles of parenting. Sometimes the laid back approach is necessary and other times we need to dig in their butts. It’s all about finding that sweet spot for us and our kids.
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Even though our parenting styles are so different we still have the same goal as far as what we want to pour into our children. So when we have friction we come back to the drawing board - we have the same goal. That makes our parenting friction are little easier to handle.
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Are you the laid back or disciplinary parent?
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#blackfamilies #parentinghacks #parentingtip #parentingtalk #parentingmoments #parentingtruths #parentingstyles #blackparents #blackparentsbelike #millenialmarriage

Philip and Amber

Sometimes you just have to get each other together. We stay getting one another together. If we can’t be real with one another who can we be real with?! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ One area that we have really been getting one another together in, and on the same page, is our parenting. We differ so much in our parenting styles. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’m more anal about things but the “pushover” at the same time. Philip is more laid back but the disciplinary. It’s funny how that works but that’s our dynamics. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What we’ve learned and continue to learn is that our kids need both styles of parenting. Sometimes the laid back approach is necessary and other times we need to dig in their butts. It’s all about finding that sweet spot for us and our kids. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Even though our parenting styles are so different we still have the same goal as far as what we want to pour into our children. So when we have friction we come back to the drawing board - we have the same goal. That makes our parenting friction are little easier to handle. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Are you the laid back or disciplinary parent? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackfamilies #parentinghacks #parentingtip #parentingtalk #parentingmoments #parentingtruths #parentingstyles #blackparents #blackparentsbelike #millenialmarriage

"There comes a time when one must take a position that is neither safe, nor politic, nor popular, but he must take it because conscience tells him it is right.” - Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. 
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It’s crazy out here y’all. We’ve seen things these past few years that we thought lived in history books. The thing is, we’re writing history right now.
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The things we do (and don’t do) are what our children, grandchildren, and beyond will be learning about.
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We are teaching our children about their brown skin - the history of it, to be proud of it, to protect it, and to love it.
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How are you taking a stand?
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#blackfamilies #marrinlutherkingday #happymlkday #bethechangeyouwanttosee #melaninmagic #blacklove #blacklivesmatter #shareblackstories #blmmovement #blackfamiliesmatter #marriedandblack #blacklivesmatter✊🏾 #imblackandimproud #blackmarriages #blackcouples #mlkquotes #makinghistory #raisingkings #raisingqueens #blacklovepage #raisingblackboys #blackmomswhoblog #blacklovemagic #doingthework #millenialmarriage

Philip and Amber

"There comes a time when one must take a position that is neither safe, nor politic, nor popular, but he must take it because conscience tells him it is right.” - Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It’s crazy out here y’all. We’ve seen things these past few years that we thought lived in history books. The thing is, we’re writing history right now. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The things we do (and don’t do) are what our children, grandchildren, and beyond will be learning about. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We are teaching our children about their brown skin - the history of it, to be proud of it, to protect it, and to love it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How are you taking a stand? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blackfamilies #marrinlutherkingday #happymlkday #bethechangeyouwanttosee #melaninmagic #blacklove #blacklivesmatter #shareblackstories #blmmovement #blackfamiliesmatter #marriedandblack #blacklivesmatter✊🏾 #imblackandimproud #blackmarriages #blackcouples #mlkquotes #makinghistory #raisingkings #raisingqueens #blacklovepage #raisingblackboys #blackmomswhoblog #blacklovemagic #doingthework #millenialmarriage

Philip and Amber

I just know he tired of me 😩😂. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #manandwife #sillycouple #blackmarriage #blackmarriages #blackmarriagemovement #blackcouplerevolution #blackcouplesrock #millenialmarriage #millenialmarried #marriedlifebelike #blackloveisdope #relationshiptalk #blackwife #funcouple #marriageblogger #blacklovecouples #millenialwifehood #blackloveisblackpower #marriageisfun #happymarriedlife #blackcouplegoals #blackhusbands #husbandandwifeforlife #husbandandwifegoals #funnycouple #blackloveexists #blackloveexist #blacklovepage #blackloveisreal #wifeblogger

Philip and Amber

All week we’ve been talking about the expectations and realities of marriage. The truth is, your marriage won’t and shouldn’t look like anyone else’s. It’s great to have couples that you look up to and get advice from. At the end of the day you and your spouse have to live within your reality and create the marriage you want and N E E D. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We were pregnant by the time we got married so aspiring to go on trips and live this glamorous lifestyle just wasn’t feasible for us. We needed to focus on having a newborn and figuring out our roles as husband and wife. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Having those expectations that may not be realistic for you can set your marriage up for failure. Comparison truly is the thief of joy. It will have you thinking you’re missing out on something or you, your marriage, and/or your spouse are inadequate when in reality that’s not the case. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This week we talked about our our first year journey and navigating through those expectations we had of marriage while moving into our reality. Check out the full episode on YouTube. LINK IN BIO. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Share this with someone who may need to hear it. 🖤 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #manandwife #marriageministry #blackmarriage #blackmarriages #blackmarriagemovement #blackcouplerevolution #blackcouplesrock #millenialmarriage #millenialmarried #marriedlifebelike #blackloveisdope #relationshiptalk #blackwife #blackwifelife #marriageblogger #blacklovecouples #millenialwifehood #blackloveisblackpower #expectationsvsreality #marriageisfun #happymarriedlife #blackcouplegoals #blackhusbands #husbandandwifeforlife #husbandandwifegoals #realmarriage blackloveexists #blackloveexist #blacklovepage #blackloveisreal

Philip and Amber

We’ve been talking about the expectations versus reality of marriage. The biggest reality is your marriage won’t and shouldn’t look like others! There is no cookie cutter “prefect marriage.” Make your marriage what it needs to be for you and your spouse. Follow @blaqlove4life for more marriage talk! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #manandwife #marriageministry #blackmarriage #blackmarriages #blackmarriagemovement #blackcouplerevolution #blackcouplesrock #millenialmarriage #millenialmarried #marriedlifebelike #blackloveisdope #relationshiptalk #blackwife #blackwifelife #marriageblogger #blacklovecouples #millenialwifehood #blackloveisblackpower #expectationsvsreality #marriageisfun #happymarriedlife #blackcouplegoals #realityofmarriage #blackloveexists

Philip and Amber

When those expectations of marriage hit reality. 😂 Follow @blaqlove4life for more marriage talk! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #manandwife #marriageministry #blackmarriage #blackmarriages #blackmarriagemovement #blackcouplerevolution #blackcouplesrock #millenialmarriage #millenialmarried #marriedlifebelike #blackloveisdope #relationshiptalk #blackwife #blackwifelife #marriageblogger #blacklovecouples #millenialwifehood #blackloveisblackpower #expectationsvsreality #marriageisfun #happymarriedlife #blackcouplegoals

Our first year of marriage was so different from what I expected. 7 months after getting married we had our son. So our first year was baby focused.⠀
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We were learning a new marriage and prepping for a baby. It was a lot.🥴⠀
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That comparison spirit crept in and we felt like we weren’t getting the full marriage experience. That’s dangerous.⠀
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We had to learn real quick that our marriage did not fit the mold. We had to make our own way and be ok with that. We thought the first year was spent taking flights and super cute pics. Our first year was prenatal appointments and gaining pregnancy weight 😩.⠀
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That’s our story. And that’s ok.⠀
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Whether your first year is similar to ours or not, it’s your story. Let go of those expectations. Your first year of marriage (or your whole marriage) might not look like someone else’s. That’s ok. Rest in Y O U R marriage with your boo. And be great.⠀
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Who else had expectations in marriage that quickly (or need to quickly) be checked? 🙋🏽‍♀️🙋🏾‍♂️⠀
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Philip and Amber

Our first year of marriage was so different from what I expected. 7 months after getting married we had our son. So our first year was baby focused.⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We were learning a new marriage and prepping for a baby. It was a lot.🥴⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ That comparison spirit crept in and we felt like we weren’t getting the full marriage experience. That’s dangerous.⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀ We had to learn real quick that our marriage did not fit the mold. We had to make our own way and be ok with that. We thought the first year was spent taking flights and super cute pics. Our first year was prenatal appointments and gaining pregnancy weight 😩.⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ That’s our story. And that’s ok.⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Whether your first year is similar to ours or not, it’s your story. Let go of those expectations. Your first year of marriage (or your whole marriage) might not look like someone else’s. That’s ok. Rest in Y O U R marriage with your boo. And be great.⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Who else had expectations in marriage that quickly (or need to quickly) be checked? 🙋🏽‍♀️🙋🏾‍♂️⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #marriageadvice #marriagetips #marriagetip #marriage101 #marriageadvice #marriageministry #marriagehelp #marriagemonday #blackmarriage #blackmarriages #blackmarriagemovement #blackcouplerevolution #blackcouplesrock #millenialmarriage #millenialmarried #marriedlifebelike #marriagesupport #blackloveisdope #relationshiptalk #blackwife #blackwifelife #marriageblogger #blacklovecouples #millenialwifehood #blackloveisblackpower

When we first got married I was so focused on what I thought marriage was supposed to look like. I wanted Philip to be the voice of our marriage. I kept trying to make him speak up and take control of everything. I wanted him to make every decision because I that’s what I thought marriage was supposed to look like.
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It got to a point to where I began to feel like he wasn’t doing his job as a husband. I prayed and prayed for God to change things.
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What I learned was I was forcing my husband to do things that went against the man and woman we both were fundamentally.
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Philip is not a dominant person with strong thoughts and opinions on everything, I am. He was not to meant to be the voice of our marriage, I was. And that’s just that.
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I was so focused on what I expected from marriage that I was making myself unhappy. Once I was able to let those expectations go I saw the value in what Philip brought to the table. We complimented one another and we worked really well together.
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It’s impossible to know what marriage will look like until you’re in the midst of it. Focusing on “what it should be” can debilitate you and leave you unhappy for no reason. 
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Our dynamics is one of the things I love about our marriage and I almost missed out on the beauty of it because I was holding on to what I thought my marriage should look like.
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Comment below if you can relate.
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Philip and Amber

When we first got married I was so focused on what I thought marriage was supposed to look like. I wanted Philip to be the voice of our marriage. I kept trying to make him speak up and take control of everything. I wanted him to make every decision because I that’s what I thought marriage was supposed to look like. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It got to a point to where I began to feel like he wasn’t doing his job as a husband. I prayed and prayed for God to change things. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What I learned was I was forcing my husband to do things that went against the man and woman we both were fundamentally. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Philip is not a dominant person with strong thoughts and opinions on everything, I am. He was not to meant to be the voice of our marriage, I was. And that’s just that. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I was so focused on what I expected from marriage that I was making myself unhappy. Once I was able to let those expectations go I saw the value in what Philip brought to the table. We complimented one another and we worked really well together. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It’s impossible to know what marriage will look like until you’re in the midst of it. Focusing on “what it should be” can debilitate you and leave you unhappy for no reason. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Our dynamics is one of the things I love about our marriage and I almost missed out on the beauty of it because I was holding on to what I thought my marriage should look like. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Comment below if you can relate. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #marriageadvice #marriagetips #marriagetip #marriage101 #marriageadvice #marriageministry #marriagehelp #marriagemonday #blackmarriage #blackmarriages #blackmarriagemovement #blackcouplerevolution #blackcouplesrock #millenialmarriage #millenialmarried #marriedlifebelike #expectationvsreality #blackcouplegoals #blackcouplesgoals

Philip and Amber

Sundays are for hair washing in our house. It would appear as if she sat there and did a spectacular job while getting her hair done. SHE DID NOT! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #kidshair #browngirlshair #ponytails #curlykidshair #childrenhairstyles #browngirlshair #detangler #kinkyhairrocks #curlykidshaircare #girlmomhair #kidswithcurls #beautifulblackgirls #blackgirlshair #blackmommyblogger #blackgirlhairstyles #melaningirls

Philip and Amber

Being an adult is a lot in itself. Life has so many ups and downs that you have to marriage. Adding a marriage gives you another person who has needs that should be met. Then kids. It’s a lot. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Balancing the needs of everyone, and yourself, is a task we have yet to master. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When you have kids they, naturally, move to the forefront of everything. They are individuals who can’t yet fully do for themselves. So as parents we cater to their every need. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Once we’ve catered to our kids we have just enough to cater to the needs of one another. But what about ourselves? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ In this week’s episode we discuss how we are finding that balance to meet the needs of not just our children, but if ourselves and each other. We’ve found that our personalities and characteristics have a big part to do with what we deem important. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Philip is a provider so he prioritizes material needs. I am a nurturer so I focus more on the emotional needs of others. Both are important but require some balance. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How you are you balancing the needs of your family? Where are you prioritizing your attention? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ [Link in bio to full episode] ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #balancingmarriage #manandwife #selfcareisntselfish #millenialmarriage #healthymarriages #marriedwithkids #healthymarriage #millenialmarriage #balancinglife #marriedwoman #marriedandblack #relationshiptips #marriagegoals #blackmarriages #blackcouples #marriedlife #blacklovedoc #marriageadvice #blackcouplesrock #balanceisimportant #blackhusbands #blackcouplesgoals #blackwives #happilymarried #blackhusbandsmatter #blackwivesmatter #shareblackstories

Yesterday was a day! Watching others act however they feel with no repercussions was a lot to stomach. Like, we knew it was a thing but to see it so blatant was annoying. 
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As parents of small kids it’s a lot to take in. One one hand we’ve been loving on our kids and focusing on them versus all the nonsense.
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On the other hand we question whether or not we should share any of this. Big brother is 7 and very curious. He watches pieces of the news with us yesterday. It’s so hard to explain the chaos that’s happening in this country as well as explain the gravity of it for us black folks.
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We’re not ready to really let him know the fear and hate that comes with his skin color. We teach him about the honor and proudness he should feel all the time, but the hate...that’s not a door we’re ready to open.
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So for today we choose love. We choose to love on our brown babies. We choose to stay in our bubble today and focus on our positive.
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How are you guys managing this continued crazy time? Are you sharing with your kids? Let us know.
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Philip and Amber

Yesterday was a day! Watching others act however they feel with no repercussions was a lot to stomach. Like, we knew it was a thing but to see it so blatant was annoying. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ As parents of small kids it’s a lot to take in. One one hand we’ve been loving on our kids and focusing on them versus all the nonsense. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ On the other hand we question whether or not we should share any of this. Big brother is 7 and very curious. He watches pieces of the news with us yesterday. It’s so hard to explain the chaos that’s happening in this country as well as explain the gravity of it for us black folks. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We’re not ready to really let him know the fear and hate that comes with his skin color. We teach him about the honor and proudness he should feel all the time, but the hate...that’s not a door we’re ready to open. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So for today we choose love. We choose to love on our brown babies. We choose to stay in our bubble today and focus on our positive. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How are you guys managing this continued crazy time? Are you sharing with your kids? Let us know. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #melaninkids #blackbabies #selfcareathome #parentingwhileblack #blackparents #blackparentsbelike #blackmomsbelike #millenialmarriage #balancinglife #blackchildrenmatter #marriedandblack #blackfamilies #blackfamiliesmatter #blackmarriages #blackcouples #marriedlife #teachingkids #parentinginapandemic #parentingistough #blackcouplesgoals #blackmomswhoblog #blacklovemagic #shareblackstories

In Our Own Little World
Throwback on a Monday! First, I cringe looking at this picture 😖. The makeup, the mustache - LOL. But you couldn’t tell us we weren’t poppin that day! 
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We had only been married 2 years at this time. We thought we had marriage figured all the way out. Newsflash - we didn’t.
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It took us a couple years of marriage, and experiences, to realize that simply loving one another wasn’t enough to maintain our marriage. We literally had to show up everyday and put in real work.
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We had to have some hard conversations with one another, but also with ourselves. It’s so easy to knit pick someone else but what about yourself? How can you show up and be better?
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Having those real conversations, often, really helped us start doing the work to stay married. Getting married is easy, but staying married requires much.
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Drop a 🖤 if you’re trying to S T A Y married.

Philip and Amber

Throwback on a Monday! First, I cringe looking at this picture 😖. The makeup, the mustache - LOL. But you couldn’t tell us we weren’t poppin that day! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We had only been married 2 years at this time. We thought we had marriage figured all the way out. Newsflash - we didn’t. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It took us a couple years of marriage, and experiences, to realize that simply loving one another wasn’t enough to maintain our marriage. We literally had to show up everyday and put in real work. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We had to have some hard conversations with one another, but also with ourselves. It’s so easy to knit pick someone else but what about yourself? How can you show up and be better? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Having those real conversations, often, really helped us start doing the work to stay married. Getting married is easy, but staying married requires much. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Drop a 🖤 if you’re trying to S T A Y married.

Philip and Amber

When hubby says he’s taking the kids with him and mommy gets a quick break 🙌🏾. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blaqlove4life #4lifegang #mommychronicles #momneedsabreak #blackmomsbelike #millenialmarriage #blackmoms #funny #blacklove #marriedcouples #blackbloggers #blackmarriages #melaninblogger #melaninbloggers #marriedlife #blacklovematters #blackloveexist #blacklovepage #blackloveisreal #uncleluke #gogirl

In Our Own Little World
The new year is a good time to restart and set your intentions for the year. It’s a time to make goals and work on becoming a better person. Your marriage needs that same planning and attention. 
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Being intentional in your marriage means planning to do and be better. The only way we can improve our marriage is if we do it on purpose.
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Each year Philip and I reflect on our marriage from the previous year. We talk about what went great, what could have gone better and areas that we need to work on. By doing this we:
1. show our level of commitment to one another.
2. acknowledge our own shortcomings.
3. become more vulnerable with each other.
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This sets the tone for our year as a couple, gives us new goals and helps us become more intentional in our everyday interactions.
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Drop a 🖤 if you plan on setting your intentions for your marriage this year. Tag your boo if y’all are going to do it together.
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Philip and Amber

The new year is a good time to restart and set your intentions for the year. It’s a time to make goals and work on becoming a better person. Your marriage needs that same planning and attention. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Being intentional in your marriage means planning to do and be better. The only way we can improve our marriage is if we do it on purpose. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Each year Philip and I reflect on our marriage from the previous year. We talk about what went great, what could have gone better and areas that we need to work on. By doing this we: 1. show our level of commitment to one another. 2. acknowledge our own shortcomings. 3. become more vulnerable with each other. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This sets the tone for our year as a couple, gives us new goals and helps us become more intentional in our everyday interactions. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Drop a 🖤 if you plan on setting your intentions for your marriage this year. Tag your boo if y’all are going to do it together. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blaqlove4life #4lifegang #happynewyear2021 #marriagegoals #melaninmagic #blacklove #intentionalmarriage #millenialmarriage #marriedonpurpose #marriedwoman #marriedmen #relationshiptips #2021goals #blackmarriages #blackcouples #marriedlife #blacklovedoc #marriageadvice #marriedmybestfriend #blacklovepage #couplesofig #blackcouplesgoals #stayingmarried #happilymarried #blacklovemagic #marriedwhileblack #shareblackstories

In Our Own Little World
H A P P Y N E W Y E A R ! We are so happy to have made it to 2021! This year we plan on growing closer and stronger in our marriage. We plan on continually learning how to be better, individually and together. 
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Year 8, here we come!
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Philip and Amber

H A P P Y N E W Y E A R ! We are so happy to have made it to 2021! This year we plan on growing closer and stronger in our marriage. We plan on continually learning how to be better, individually and together. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Year 8, here we come! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blaqlove4life #4lifegang #happynewyear2021 #friendsfirst #melaninmagic #blacklove #blackfamilies #millenialmarriage #friendshipmatters #marriedwoman #marriedmen #relationshiptips #marriagegoals #blackmarriages #blackcouples #marriedlife #blacklovedoc #marriageadvice #marriedmybestfriend #blacklovepage #couplesofig #blackcouplesgoals #blackfamilylove #happilymarried #blacklovemagic #marriedwhileblack #shareblackstories

Philip and Amber

*we do not own the rights to this music* Mood. All 2021 🎥: @forever.londonn @teyanataylor @kingcombs #blaqlove4life #4lifegang #teyanataylor #kingcombs #howyouwantit #hywi #hywichallenge #blackmarriage #blackmarriagemovement #husbandandwife #blacklovematters #blacklovedoc #blacklovepage

Philip and Amber

... and my wife says we don’t spend enough time together 🙄 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Follow @blaqlove4life ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blaqlove4life #4lifegang #friendsandlovers #husbandlife #melaninmagic #blacklove #mywifeandi #millenialmarriage #friendshipmatters #marriedwoman #marriedmen #relationshiptips #marriagegoals #blackmarriages #blackcouples #marriedlife #blacklovedoc #marriageadvice #marriedmybestfriend #blacklovepage #couplesofig #blackcouplesgoals #blackhusbands #happilymarried #blacklovemagic #marriedwhileblack #shareblackstories

In Our Own Little World
This is something we talk about all the time. Us being friends first has allowed us to navigate through some of the harder times a little better.
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When we’re not feeling one another we’re still able to handle one another with that mutual respect and gentleness that friends show each other. Once we’ve calmed down we don’t have the regret of saying things in the heat of the moment because we treated each other as friends in the midst of the disagreement.
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Being friends first also shows you whether or not you even like your spouse as a person. It’s easy to get clouded with the physical or what someone can do for you. Outside of those things, do we like each other?
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These quarantine months have really solidified our friendship. When we’ve been stuck in the house with no escape from one another we were ok. We laughed, played games, got on each other’s nerves a bit and then continued to enjoy one another. 
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When you take the physical away, are you and your spouse truly friends?
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Philip and Amber

This is something we talk about all the time. Us being friends first has allowed us to navigate through some of the harder times a little better. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When we’re not feeling one another we’re still able to handle one another with that mutual respect and gentleness that friends show each other. Once we’ve calmed down we don’t have the regret of saying things in the heat of the moment because we treated each other as friends in the midst of the disagreement. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Being friends first also shows you whether or not you even like your spouse as a person. It’s easy to get clouded with the physical or what someone can do for you. Outside of those things, do we like each other? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ These quarantine months have really solidified our friendship. When we’ve been stuck in the house with no escape from one another we were ok. We laughed, played games, got on each other’s nerves a bit and then continued to enjoy one another. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When you take the physical away, are you and your spouse truly friends? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blaqlove4life #4lifegang #friendsandlovers #friendsfirst #melaninmagic #blacklove #blackfamilies #millenialmarriage #friendshipmatters #marriedwoman #marriedmen #relationshiptips #marriagegoals #blackmarriages #blackcouples #marriedlife #blacklovedoc #marriageadvice #marriedmybestfriend #blacklovepage #couplesofig #blackcouplesgoals #blackfamilylove #happilymarried #blacklovemagic #marriedwhileblack

In Our Own Little World
2020 helped me re-learn how important it is to marry your friend. I’ve lost so much self confidence over the years (because...having kids) that it started to  take a toll on me and my marriage. Philip has really helped me get some of that confidence back and helped me be comfortable as Amber.
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This is my favorite outfit. I love how this jumpsuit fits on my body and accentuates my curves in the right places. It helps me hide my unflattering sides 🥴.
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This year I realized how uncomfortable I’d gotten just being me. My personality is big, my voice is loud, and my body is way different than it was when we got married.
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But my husband loves it all, whether I’m wearing this jumpsuit or nothing at all. Not fake love because he has to, but real love. Like, he truly loves ME, regardless of what it looks like today. Once I understood that I was able to be more comfortable with myself. 
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2020 has shown me how important it is to have a partner (and friend) that gives you confidence in and out of your clothes.
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How did 2020 treat you? Let me know what 2020 has taught you!
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Philip and Amber

2020 helped me re-learn how important it is to marry your friend. I’ve lost so much self confidence over the years (because...having kids) that it started to take a toll on me and my marriage. Philip has really helped me get some of that confidence back and helped me be comfortable as Amber. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This is my favorite outfit. I love how this jumpsuit fits on my body and accentuates my curves in the right places. It helps me hide my unflattering sides 🥴. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This year I realized how uncomfortable I’d gotten just being me. My personality is big, my voice is loud, and my body is way different than it was when we got married. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But my husband loves it all, whether I’m wearing this jumpsuit or nothing at all. Not fake love because he has to, but real love. Like, he truly loves ME, regardless of what it looks like today. Once I understood that I was able to be more comfortable with myself. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 2020 has shown me how important it is to have a partner (and friend) that gives you confidence in and out of your clothes. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How did 2020 treat you? Let me know what 2020 has taught you! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blaqlove4life #4lifegang #yearinreview #myhusbandlovesme #melaninmagic #blacklove #marriagegoals #millenialmarriage #marriagestory #plussizeconfidence #blackgirlmagic #plussizelife #myhusbandismybestfriend #blackmarriages #blackcouples #marriedlife #blacklovedoc #plussizequeen #marriage #blacklovepage #couplesofig #blackcouplesgoals #blackfamilylove #happilymarried #blacklovemagic #marriedwhileblack

In Our Own Little World
2020 forced me to be still and be grateful for what I have. Prior to this year, I assumed one of my roles as a husband was to prioritize work in order to provide what my wife and kids wanted. If it weren’t for me taking my son to school in the mornings, there would be days where my kids wouldn’t see me at all. I’d talk to my wife as much as I could throughout the day but she yearned for that quality time with me. She wanted my undivided attention but my mind was always focused on how I could earn the next dollar. I’d be the first one to wake up and the last one to go to bed Monday - Friday. I worked so much that my attitude changed. My temper became shorter and if I sat still for more than 5 minutes I’d be asleep no matter where I was or what was going on. I was too exhausted to play with my kids. They didn’t know or care that I’d worked 70+ hours that week. All they knew was their daddy was home and they wanted to play. 
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Then COVID-19 came in March and forced me to stay home and sit still. I realized quickly that my presence with my wife and kids means way more than prioritizing making money. Money comes and goes but the time you spend with your family has everlasting impressions. Quarantine was the best thing that could’ve happened to us. Each individual relationship with my wife and kids has gotten stronger because of the time we’re being forced to spend with one another. I’ve reached a new level of love with my wife I didn’t know existed. We’ve talked about more about our childhood and how it affects our decisions and thought process today. We’ve also had some uncomfortable conversations that have strengthened our marriage for the better. One thing Amber has taught me is how to be more vulnerable with her, and that it’s ok to show that side of me.
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This year has been a blessing in disguise for me and our marriage. How has COVID helped you in your relationship?
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#blaqlove4life #4lifegang #covid2020 #quarantinelifebelike #ilovemywife #quarantine #marriage #blacklovematters #blacklove #marriedcouples #yearinreview #blackmarriages  #dopeblackpods #marriedlife #blacklovematters #blackloveexist #blacklovepage #blackloveisreal

Philip and Amber

2020 forced me to be still and be grateful for what I have. Prior to this year, I assumed one of my roles as a husband was to prioritize work in order to provide what my wife and kids wanted. If it weren’t for me taking my son to school in the mornings, there would be days where my kids wouldn’t see me at all. I’d talk to my wife as much as I could throughout the day but she yearned for that quality time with me. She wanted my undivided attention but my mind was always focused on how I could earn the next dollar. I’d be the first one to wake up and the last one to go to bed Monday - Friday. I worked so much that my attitude changed. My temper became shorter and if I sat still for more than 5 minutes I’d be asleep no matter where I was or what was going on. I was too exhausted to play with my kids. They didn’t know or care that I’d worked 70+ hours that week. All they knew was their daddy was home and they wanted to play. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Then COVID-19 came in March and forced me to stay home and sit still. I realized quickly that my presence with my wife and kids means way more than prioritizing making money. Money comes and goes but the time you spend with your family has everlasting impressions. Quarantine was the best thing that could’ve happened to us. Each individual relationship with my wife and kids has gotten stronger because of the time we’re being forced to spend with one another. I’ve reached a new level of love with my wife I didn’t know existed. We’ve talked about more about our childhood and how it affects our decisions and thought process today. We’ve also had some uncomfortable conversations that have strengthened our marriage for the better. One thing Amber has taught me is how to be more vulnerable with her, and that it’s ok to show that side of me. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This year has been a blessing in disguise for me and our marriage. How has COVID helped you in your relationship? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blaqlove4life #4lifegang #covid2020 #quarantinelifebelike #ilovemywife #quarantine #marriage #blacklovematters #blacklove #marriedcouples #yearinreview #blackmarriages #dopeblackpods #marriedlife #blacklovematters #blackloveexist #blacklovepage #blackloveisreal

Philip and Amber

This or That?! 😂🤣 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Philip and Amber edition 💃🏾🕺🏾 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blaqlove4life #4lifegang #thisorthat #itstrickychallenge #thisorthatchallenge #quarantine #rundmc #funny #blacklove #marriedcouples #itstricky #blackmarriages #dopeblackpods #explorepage #marriedlife #blacklovematters #blackloveexist #blacklovepage #blackloveisreal

Happy Kwanza! Today is the first day of K W A N Z A A! We are celebrating Kwanzaa in our home, just like we celebrate Christmas and any other holiday. We try to be super intentional with what we introduce our children to.
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Dr. Maulana Karenga created Kwanzaa in 1966. After the Watts riots in Los Angeles, Dr. Karenga searched for ways to bring African Americans together as a community.
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The name #Kwanzaa is derived from the phrase “matunda ya kwanza” which means “first fruits” in Swahili.
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The seven principles, or Nguzo Saba are a set of ideals created by Dr. Maulana Karenga. Each day of Kwanzaa emphasizes a different principle.
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Unity:Umoja (oo–MO–jah)
To strive for and maintain unity in the family, community, nation, and race.
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Self-determination: Kujichagulia (koo–gee–cha–goo–LEE–yah)
To define ourselves, name ourselves, create for ourselves, and speak for ourselves.
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Collective Work and Responsibility: Ujima (oo–GEE–mah)
To build and maintain our community together and make our brother’s and sister’s problems our problems and to solve them together.
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Cooperative Economics: Ujamaa (oo–JAH–mah)
To build and maintain our own stores, shops, and other businesses and to profit from them together.
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Purpose: Nia (nee–YAH)
To make our collective vocation the building and developing of our community in order to restore our people to their traditional greatness.
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Creativity: Kuumba (koo–OOM–bah)
To do always as much as we can, in the way we can, in order to leave our community more beautiful and beneficial than we inherited it.
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Faith: Imani (ee–MAH–nee)
To believe with all our heart in our people, our parents, our teachers, our leaders, and the righteousness and victory of our struggle.
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Anyone else celebrating Kwanzaa?
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#HappyKwanzaa #Kwanzaa2020 #blackandproud #kwanzaa #kwanzaacelebration #blackfamiles #melanin #blackhistory #drmaulanakarenga #blackfamilies #kinara #blacklivesmatter #panafrican #quarantine #✊🏾

Philip and Amber

Happy Kwanza! Today is the first day of K W A N Z A A! We are celebrating Kwanzaa in our home, just like we celebrate Christmas and any other holiday. We try to be super intentional with what we introduce our children to. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Dr. Maulana Karenga created Kwanzaa in 1966. After the Watts riots in Los Angeles, Dr. Karenga searched for ways to bring African Americans together as a community. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The name #Kwanzaa is derived from the phrase “matunda ya kwanza” which means “first fruits” in Swahili. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The seven principles, or Nguzo Saba are a set of ideals created by Dr. Maulana Karenga. Each day of Kwanzaa emphasizes a different principle. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Unity:Umoja (oo–MO–jah) To strive for and maintain unity in the family, community, nation, and race. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Self-determination: Kujichagulia (koo–gee–cha–goo–LEE–yah) To define ourselves, name ourselves, create for ourselves, and speak for ourselves. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Collective Work and Responsibility: Ujima (oo–GEE–mah)
To build and maintain our community together and make our brother’s and sister’s problems our problems and to solve them together. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Cooperative Economics: Ujamaa (oo–JAH–mah) To build and maintain our own stores, shops, and other businesses and to profit from them together. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Purpose: Nia (nee–YAH) To make our collective vocation the building and developing of our community in order to restore our people to their traditional greatness. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Creativity: Kuumba (koo–OOM–bah) To do always as much as we can, in the way we can, in order to leave our community more beautiful and beneficial than we inherited it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Faith: Imani (ee–MAH–nee) To believe with all our heart in our people, our parents, our teachers, our leaders, and the righteousness and victory of our struggle. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Anyone else celebrating Kwanzaa? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #HappyKwanzaa #Kwanzaa2020 #blackandproud #kwanzaa #kwanzaacelebration #blackfamiles #melanin #blackhistory #drmaulanakarenga #blackfamilies #kinara #blacklivesmatter #panafrican #quarantine #✊🏾

In Our Own Little World
This year has been THE craziest! Since January we have been working hard to find the joy. Even throughout the craziness we’ve still been finding our joy. 
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Without failure, we are always able to find joy with one another. Some days we just sit and chill, reminisce or just joke with one another (heavy on the joking lol). We literally just have a good, genuine time with one another.
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As we close 2020 we are still holding on to our joy and laughing with one another.
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Find some joy today!
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#blaqlove4life #4lifegang #happyholidays #blackparents #melaninmagic #blacklove #blackfamilies #millenialmarriage #findingjoy #findingjoyinthejourney #blackgirlmagic #christmastime #christmasvibe #blackmarriages #blackcouples #marriedlife #blacklovedoc #friendsfirst #marriage #blacklovepage #couplesofig #blackcouplesgoals #blackfamilylove #happilymarried #blacklovemagic #marriedwhileblack #laughingisgoodforthesoul

Philip and Amber

This year has been THE craziest! Since January we have been working hard to find the joy. Even throughout the craziness we’ve still been finding our joy. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Without failure, we are always able to find joy with one another. Some days we just sit and chill, reminisce or just joke with one another (heavy on the joking lol). We literally just have a good, genuine time with one another. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ As we close 2020 we are still holding on to our joy and laughing with one another. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Find some joy today! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blaqlove4life #4lifegang #happyholidays #blackparents #melaninmagic #blacklove #blackfamilies #millenialmarriage #findingjoy #findingjoyinthejourney #blackgirlmagic #christmastime #christmasvibe #blackmarriages #blackcouples #marriedlife #blacklovedoc #friendsfirst #marriage #blacklovepage #couplesofig #blackcouplesgoals #blackfamilylove #happilymarried #blacklovemagic #marriedwhileblack #laughingisgoodforthesoul

Our Own Little World

Philip and Amber

Happy Holidays from our little family to yours! This year has been a rollercoater in every way possible. But we’re here, together and happy. 🖤 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We hope you’re enjoying this day and eating some 🔥 food. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blaqlove4life #4lifegang #happyholidays #blackparents #melaninmagic #blacklove #blackfamilies #millenialmarriage #toddlers #blackboyjoy #blackgirlmagic #christmastime #christmasvibe #blackmarriages #blackcouples #marriedlife #blacklovedoc #love #marriage #blacklovepage #couplesofig #blackcouplesgoals #blackfamilylove #happilymarried #blacklovemagic #marriedwhileblack

Philip and Amber

Man, parenting is exhausting sometimes. Having little kids requires being super active. By the end of the day we are pooped. Philip and I have gotten our “who’s turn it is to get up” down to a science 😂 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blaqlove4life #4lifegang #parenting #blackparents #melaninmagic #blacklove #blackfamilies #millenialmarriage #sillycouples #blackmarriages #blackcouples #marriedlife #funny #blacklovepage #parentinglife #parentinghacks #parentingh

I never realized how important it is to be the best version of yourself you can be until having children. It wasn’t until having my daughter that I realized that isn’t enough. 
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Being a role model for your children matters but the relationships you have with others matter so much as well. How Philip treats me and how I treat him matters. My daughter is watching that relationship and consciously and subconsciously learning from it.
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It’s my job to show her how to she should treat men but more importantly how a man should treat her. When you know how you want to be treated you can teach others how to treat you. Philip has always been a good man but I had to teach him how to treat ME.
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Everyday I’m aware that my daughter is watching me and I’m teaching her what a woman is. When she thinks of a woman I want her to think: strong but gentle, kind, classy, stylish, nurturing and confident.
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What are you teaching your daughter?
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#blaqlove4life #4lifegang #girlmom #daughter #blackparents #blackgirlmagic #melaninmagic #blacklove #blackfamilies #millenialmarriage #momlife #blackmarriages #friendsfirst #blackcouples #marriedlife #daughterandmother #blacklovepage #melaninkids #blackmoms #amotherslove #momlifeaf #motherhoodjourney #raisingdaughters #toddlermomlife #blackmomsofig

Philip and Amber

I never realized how important it is to be the best version of yourself you can be until having children. It wasn’t until having my daughter that I realized that isn’t enough. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Being a role model for your children matters but the relationships you have with others matter so much as well. How Philip treats me and how I treat him matters. My daughter is watching that relationship and consciously and subconsciously learning from it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It’s my job to show her how to she should treat men but more importantly how a man should treat her. When you know how you want to be treated you can teach others how to treat you. Philip has always been a good man but I had to teach him how to treat ME. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Everyday I’m aware that my daughter is watching me and I’m teaching her what a woman is. When she thinks of a woman I want her to think: strong but gentle, kind, classy, stylish, nurturing and confident. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What are you teaching your daughter? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blaqlove4life #4lifegang #girlmom #daughter #blackparents #blackgirlmagic #melaninmagic #blacklove #blackfamilies #millenialmarriage #momlife #blackmarriages #friendsfirst #blackcouples #marriedlife #daughterandmother #blacklovepage #melaninkids #blackmoms #amotherslove #momlifeaf #motherhoodjourney #raisingdaughters #toddlermomlife #blackmomsofig

You ever feel super blah some days? Just unmotivated or lacking enthusiasm? We have those days every once in a while. 
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Because we have such different personalities we tend to have those “blah” feelings on different days. That’s great because we can pick up the slack for the other one. 
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For a while we took a “blah” day personal. Like we weren’t doing something right as husband/wife or we weren’t making the other person happy. That isn’t always the case. We are individuals as well, and we have our own thoughts and feelings that are separate from one another.
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We’ve now learned to give each other space on those days, and that it’s ok to have those days. It doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong or someone is unhappy. It’s just a day. 
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Anyone having one of those days today 😩?

Philip and Amber

You ever feel super blah some days? Just unmotivated or lacking enthusiasm? We have those days every once in a while. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Because we have such different personalities we tend to have those “blah” feelings on different days. That’s great because we can pick up the slack for the other one. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ For a while we took a “blah” day personal. Like we weren’t doing something right as husband/wife or we weren’t making the other person happy. That isn’t always the case. We are individuals as well, and we have our own thoughts and feelings that are separate from one another. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We’ve now learned to give each other space on those days, and that it’s ok to have those days. It doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong or someone is unhappy. It’s just a day. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Anyone having one of those days today 😩?

Philip and Amber

Our son got tons of nerf guns for his birthday last week. It was only right that mom and dad tested them out 😂 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We’ve been having full on nerf wars with one another... With and without the kids 😂 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Who do you think won the nerf war? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #blaqlove4life #4lifegang #funmarriage #nerf #nerfornothin #nerfguns #nerfwars #blacklove #blackfamilies #quarantine #christmas #blackmarriages #friendsfirst #blackcouples #marriedlife #funny #blacklovepage #quarantinelife

Philip and Amber

While mom is away, all dads want to do is take a peaceful mid-day nap. But oh no! The kids always interrupt. 😡 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🗣 Help Me! 😩